Emotional Affair - Restoring the Trust

What is an Emotional affair and how can it damage your marriage or relationship?

An emotional affair is when your partner or spouse has developed a close bond with another person, for example a workmate and that relationship has become one of a closer and more confidential nature. At this stage it is not a sexual fling and has not become physical.

Close relationships are usually based on a strong, emotional connection between two people. When one of them looks outside to find gratification of an emotional or sexual nature, this amounts to infidelity inside that relationship. It also leaves the other partner feeling lost and even betrayed by their partner or spouse.

With the advent of the Internet, mobile phones and all the latest technologies available, it is far easier for your spouse or partner to hide any kind of emotional infidelity that they may be involved in.

For instance, have you ever been guilty of checking your spouses phone? Maybe because they are getting lots of text messages and at unusual times. Although this is not a good thing to do, if you think they may be having an affair, you may find it difficult to stop doing it. You may even discover a name that you don't know, which keeps showing up again and again and the messages you read are more than just messages between friends. This could be the sign of an emotional affair.

In this instance, even though the relationship is not physical or sexual, because there is an emotionally intimate connection between them, any intimacy that you have in your marriage becomes weakened. Think about it, sharing your deepest feelings with someone who isn't your partner or spouse shows that you have cultivated an emotional connection with them.

The partner or spouse, when confronted, will argue with the following question. "Are you saying I can't have friends of the opposite sex?" This is to make you experience a feeling of guilt and this technique is extremely effective.

So, if this emotional infidelity is occuring, how will you know if the relationship has escalated to a physical level? The truthful answer is that you won't. Probably more importantly, is to recognize that you have undergone a collapse in the emotional closeness of your own relationship.

If your partner or spouse has admitted to having an "emotional affair", you need to begin to repair the lost intimacy of your partnership. This is where you need to start to concentrate your attention and to apply consistent effort to get back the closeness that you originally had

How do you do this?

1. Find the level of Emotional Connection You Have with Your Partner - There should be no reason for your partner to be unfaithful, to have an emotional affair or even a sexual one. You will want to know why they were unfaithful. Cheating usually occurs because there is unhappiness or low levels of communication and intimacy within the relationship. Finally, the cheater will embark on an emotional affair or infidelity, because he resents this lack of closeness in his marriage or relationship.

2. Learn How You Communicate With Your Partner - You need to see how well you both communicate and how effective it really is in your relationship. Communication is not just talking. It also covers the non verbal side, which could be as simple as sharing quality time with your partner, a stolen kiss or a bit of flirting. Both forms of communication are crucial to developing a stronger emotional connection between you. If any one of these is lacking, then this can be a fundamental reason for your partner to go elsewhere and look for someone who will fulfil that need and make them feel "special".

If the emotional communication in your partnership has reached the point of being non-existent, then you need to save it now. You will need to experiment with new forms of intimacy at a much deeper level.

However, this is only the starting point towards a more established emotional connection with your partner. There are other elements you need to work on to achieve a stronger, more satisfying partnership. By doing these things, it will actually help you to move beyond your partner's emotional affair or infidelity.

To find out how you can get back the trust after your partners emotional affair and save your marriage from divorce. Click Emotional Affair.